What WOMAN Means to Me – Pt. with Becca Schultz

Becca Shultz is an amazing soul, she is an inspiring presence and I am so very honored that she has written a post for this series! As an empowered WOMAN, Becca has now taken it upon herself to spread the powerful inspirations and ideations that she has been taught by women in her life. I came across Becca’s Instagram page, Becoming_Becca.Again_, and it blew me away, Becca is not only powering through Eating Disorder Recovery like a boss, but she is also busting through the feminist world and making it her own, while advocating for ALL! I hope you enjoy this incredibly depiction of what WOMAN means to Becca.

“Being a woman.” Where do I even begin? I hope I don’t jumble some of my words, I do struggle with self-confidence a lot.

For so long I never really thought about or pondered on the fact of what it truly means to be a woman, to encompass the feminine spirit.

Growing up in a society that has it’s set standards of what being a woman “really encompasses” has caused me to feel confused throughout the majority of my life, questioning where I stood in society, and if my role in society was important or not, and I know that many women feel the same way about this no matter what race, religion, sexual orientation, skin-color, or gender someone is or the sex they were assigned at birth, and the list goes on and on.

Ever since I entered recovery for my eating disorder and other mental and emotional illnesses, I really started to see the actual woman that I was, not the woman that society wanted or still wants me to be, and once I found my space in the community of self-love and intersectionality on Instagram, I actually found my voice, as they say, and that my voice actually does matter.

Crossing paths with so many inspirational and powerful women through Instagram and of course within the world in general (one of them being my bad ass mom!), I feel like I finally am using my voice, believing in the things that I BELIEVE IN, not what my family or others want me to believe. I am an intersectional feminist and it feels good to finally say it. I am so proud of myself in regards to the woman that I am becoming every day, and I thank all of those that have crossed paths with me showing me the way to who I am becoming.

I am more than my hair, my looks, and my legs. I am more than my body! I am an intersectional feminist that is learning every day…learning every day how to be a better citizen and woman to those around me. Taking action to derail patriarchal standards that have created unrealistic expectations that make me and so many around me feel inferior and not good enough.

I am so honored to have this opportunity to do a write up for this amazing blog. My hope is to continue to be the change in this world that needs to happen, to inspire my nieces and nephews and future children to keep fighting for what is right.

I want to give a special thank you and shout out to one of my biggest inspirations, Dana Suchow (@dothehotpants). Thank you for giving me the strength to start “being me unapologetically.”

-Becca Schultz

What WOMAN Means To Me – Pt. 4 with Claire Mattingly

It’s that time again! I am so anxious for everyone to read this post, not just because it was authored by my sister, but also because Claire is a strong, empowering and amazing person. Claire is my younger sister, and she is truly what I hope to be like when I “grow up!” Enjoy!

To me, WOMAN does not refer to a single individual, nor simply myself, but a powerful patchwork, a sisterhood. This sisterhood is comprised of women who care for, listen to, and protect each other. My mom, my sisters, my friends, my guardians.

I am undoubtedly proud to be a woman, but society weighs on me because of it. I am constantly made aware of the lower position my gender affords me. I’m told, “you’re not like other girls, you’re cool,” and I’m expected to react to this attack on my sisterhood as if it’s a gift. I’m told, “don’t get so emotional,” when I’m simply expressing passion. I’m told, “not everything’s about feminism,” when I try to address blatant misogyny.

I’m told. I’m told. I’m told.

I don’t wish to tackle the patriarchy in this moment, but instead to honor the sisterhood. Because the best way to combat the above intrusions is to support each other as women. So often, we’re tempted to put one another down. It’s an impulse that stems from the societal teaching early on that other girls, and later, other women, are your competition. Competition for love, success, and happiness. As if it’s a zero-sum game. I reject that. We all need to reject that.

Women are my strength and inspiration. In my 21 years, I have seen how powerful we are together: The compassion, smarts, and joy we produce when we are in sync is, to put it lightly, kick ass. I want to take more time to nurture and appreciate that bond. I want to make a daily effort to hear each other, to defend each other, and to respect myself just as much. I hope you do too.

So to me, I will reiterate, woman means family.

-Claire Mattingly

Self-Care Giveaway! Recovery Love and Care & Celadon Massage

CALLING ALL LOCALS!!!! The lovely Joanna Gable, from Celadon Massage, and I have linked up and created an AMAZING give away for anyone who is within the Charleston, SC area!

Joanna is a local Licensed Massage Therapist (LMT) here in Charleston. She runs her own practice with focus on local and organic products. Joanna believes in the power of the healing touch, the beauty of ALL bodies, as well as, the luxury of having another person take care of you. It is a wonderful thing to take care of others, and also to take care of yourself, but sometimes it is necessary for others to take care of you! Self-care is so incredibly important to live a healthy, happy and successful life, and sometimes that self-care needs to be LUXURIOUS! Therefore, we have come up with an AMAZING give away for all local Charlestonians! Check it out below!

The Give Away:
A completely complimentary 60 minute massage at Celadon Massage, with your choice of a complimentary add-on (see below)!
Add-ons include:
-Dry brushing: great for stimulation the lymph system and full-body exfoliation
-Hot Stone: heated stones applied during  the session to aid in relaxation and deeper relief, increases circulation
-Contrast therapy: Heat and cold applies to the body to increase muscle relaxation and decrease inflammation
-Extended Rest Time: 15 or 30m time on the table post massage to rest and fully enjoy the benefits of your massage before returning to the real world
-Feet Treet: honey/salt/coconut oil scrub applied to the feet along with heated towels and paraffin to exfoliate and hydrate the feet
Our promise:
– All massages include full hands on time (some places take time out of the session for undressing and such), pressure and techniques are always as needed for optimal comfort healing and relaxation, and aromatherapy diffusion is included!

-All fees included!

How to enter:

Go to Instagram and find this post, follow @RecoveryLoveandCare AND @Celadon.Massage and tag two local friends, and thats it! Remember, you MUST FOLLOW BOTH ACCOUNTS in order to be eligible for the give away!

For every extra local that you tag (two are required) you will be entered into the drawing again!

The giveaway will start on Wednesday May 10th and go until Wednesday May 17th, so make sure to enter!

The winner will be announced via Instagram on Thursday May 18th!

And don’t forget to #selfcareitout!

What WOMAN Means To Me Series – Pt. 3 With Gissell Reyes

Gissell Reyes is another dear friend of mine, fellow woman warrior, future colleague and fellow sister! I am overwhelmed by her beautiful depiction of WOMAN….go ahead and indulge yourself in this amazing illustration of What WOMAN means to Gissell….

Defining your womanhood is unique to yourself. This is one woman’s perspective on what it means to be a woman. Using this word to define the manner in which we keep our relationships with your loved ones and friends, what you give of yourself to those relationships, and how you maintain your balance with both.

Being a WOMAN in today’s society means many things but these definitions belong to society.

 

My definition is my own, just as your definition is wholly your own. When I think of my womanhood, I think of the relationships I maintain and my role in these relationships. Beyond my biology, I am a woman because I am a daughter, a sister, a friend, and a partner to my boyfriend. All of these relationships have a specific meaning that makes it unique to my idea of a woman.

I am a daughter, different than a son because women are closer to their families. Traditionally, we stay closer to home even as we build our own separate families. There is a saying about this: a son is a son until he gains a wife but a daughter is a daughter all her life.

I am a sister. I am loyal and protective and the keeper of memories. Sisterhood comes from a bond that is soul deep. It is formed through the sharing of adventures and of secrets and of life. To be a sister means to give of yourself for the betterment and wellbeing of your sister. You share your soul with your sister. While your children are your heart walking in the world outside your body, your sister is a piece of you doing the same thing. This is the same for people you chose to share a sisterhood with, your close friends that sub in when you don’t have a sister or are apart from them.

I am a partner. To be a girlfriend or a partner or a wife as a woman means you share yourself with another person. It means that you take care of the other person with compassion and support. To be a woman in a relationship you walk a fine line. You give of yourself without losing yourself. It takes balance and self-awareness to be a woman in a healthy, thriving relationship.

In reality, it takes balance to be a woman in general. In today’s society, women are told how to look, how to act, how to feel, it is more important than ever to find balance and be confident in your own identity. For me, what woman means to me goes beyond the superficial. It is, at its core, about how I maintain my relationships, about what I put into them. It becomes a part of the identity I create for myself. The goals I have and the achievements I accomplish are defining characteristics of the kind of person, the kind of human being I want to be. But what I put into my relationships is what woman means woman.

-Gissell Reyes

What WOMAN Means to Me Series pt. 2 – With Asia Vianna Mack

My good friend, fellow peer, and future colleague Asia Vianna Mack has gloriously put into words what WOMAN means to her in the form of poem. I am honored to know such a strong and vulnerable woman, I hope you enjoy!

Pieces

Just like a Mr. Potato Head. Rip off the arms, mouth, mustache and legs. All you’re left with is a big brown lump!

I’ve often felt this way as I’ve physically matured from a girl to a woman. The objectification and sexualization of my body impacted my self-esteem, self-image and spirit. So many times, when I look in the mirror I mentally detach my body parts. Starting with my face and then my breasts. Stomach. Thighs. Buttocks. Back and then around to my arms. Scrutinizing. Criticizing. Assessing. Disapproving. Finding flaws with my body.

This fault seeking behavior impacted the self-love I showed my body. As I have become more educated on sexism, misogyny, objectification, and stereotypes I have been able to recognize my internalization of these perceptions. Yet, for a long time, even after I recognized that I internalized these ideas I wasn’t sure what to do with it or how to correct it.

To really shift your thinking is an involved process. A process I’m still moving through. For me this involves my faith and seeing myself the way God intends me to be seen. Another aspect is my various practices of movement and dance. The mind, body, soul connection I have with movement helps me repair some of the mental and spiritual damage I’ve done to myself with negative and judgmental thoughts. Then there is the actual replacement of thoughts. I still may look at my stomach and think, “My waist is too large”, yet now I’m training myself to send that body part love with thoughts such as “I love you stomach and I am thankful for the strength within you and all you do to help me move.”

By showing my body grace and appreciation I can work to be a healthier me for me and not for society’s perception of me or for some image I put in my head. This level of self-love is a God-send and I am so happy to be in this space.

Find a way to love your body and all the parts that make it up. You are not just your hair, your lips, your breasts, waist, or hips. You are a woman. A woman with a brain and a spirit. What a wonderful way to be.

Asia Vianna Mack

What WOMAN Means to Me – Series Kickoff!

This is a start to an extensive and beautiful collaborative series about what WOMAN means, as the concept of female and woman is unique to each and every individual. We will be hearing from women and men from all walks of life, all shapes and sizes, all colors, all cultures and backgrounds. So read on, and stay tuned!

Self-Awareness is such a crucial part of self-care, and self-love, as we can only truly find our self worth and state of happiness once we look at ourselves. We must ask ourselves questions that force us to delve deeper and peel back the layers to find awareness of our true beings; self-awareness helps us understand why and how we are important to the world…. because we are ALL so important, and so incredibly worthy! Self-awareness can start with some simple questions….

Who am I?

What makes me happy?

What do I appreciate about myself?

What do others appreciate about me?

What do I appreciate about others?

How do I perceive myself?

How do I perceive others?

What truly makes me happy?

What truly makes me proud?

So much of my identity is being a woman. My Mom and Dad raised three strong, independent, driven and compassionate women, and with that came a sense of pride! Within this world of oppression, inequality, gender norms and media manipulation it can be difficult to maintain that sense of pride, as others constantly try to tear it down. Therefore, I find that self-awareness towards what makes me a proud woman, and self-compassion within my pride of what being a woman encompasses, is truly self-care at its purest form! I am woman; this is what WOMAN means to me.

To kick off this series, I chose to incorporate a poem called “Where I am From”

WHERE I’M FROM

I am from American Girl, Disney Princesses, Hopscotch at recess and swimming in the summer.

I am from the outer banks of the concrete jungle, from the cozy suburbs, a neighborhood filled with privilege, the bustle of trains and gusts of wind; from squelching summers and freezing winters.

I am from the dandelion blowing in the spring air, the daisy and seashell in the sweet southern sun.

I am from a Christmas Eve’s watching White Christmas with Bing Crosby and strong women from the Irenes, Gorey Girls and Edwards.

I am from the anxiety-ridden tears, eating disorders and unconditional love for animals.

From being an “old soul” and overly sensitive.

I am from Methodist practicing Irish Catholics, from the shame brought upon by converting.

I’m from La Grange, IL, Irish and Italian Catholics, deep-dish pizza and bowls of popcorn and ice cream

From the time Kathie pulled her hamstring while doing the champagne splits the millennium being rung in with innocent cheer, sparkling grape juice and silly string and

Tess, and Claire brushing their teeth to NSYNC every morning before school despite the seven year age gap.

I am from underneath the Christmas tree, on the beaches of South Carolina, the strong trust of my parents, the intense bond with my sisters, the struggle of becoming a woman, the results of being a dancer, the middle child, the sensitive one, and most importantly the love and truth of family.

I am healthy, I am beautiful, I am recovered, I am in love, I am happy, I am strong, I am a WOMAN.

Bay State to Broad Collaboration – A New Take on More Than Just a Number

Bay State to Broad’s original post….

More Than Just a Number

I’m so excited to feature one of my sweetest friends on Bay State to Broad today!

Jayne grew up just outside of Chicago. I grew up just outside of Boston.

Jayne transferred schools after her freshman year to The College of Charleston. I transferred schools after my freshman year to The University of South Carolina.

Jayne and I both decided to study abroad in Florence, Italy. We were paired in an apartment together more than 4,000 miles from home.

After college, Jayne and I went in opposite directions. I went back to Massachusetts, while she made a cross-country journey to Jackson Hole, Wyoming.

Five years later, Jayne and I live just a few miles down the road from each other in charming Charleston, South Carolina.

Week three of friendship! Wine tasting excursion through the hills of Tuscany. (Hashtag babies.)

Jayne blogs over at Recovery Love and Care, a blog, website, and brand that helps those with Eating Disorders and their loved ones move through the journey of self-care, self-love, and recovery. She is working towards obtaining her graduate degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling at The Chicago School of Professional Psychology, and is planning on becoming a Licensed Professional Counselor.

While you may not think our blogs have much in common, she got me thinking about the idea of our lives being “more than just a number.” In the case of Eating Disorder recovery, this concept often equates back to weight, size, and body image. But numbers sneak their way into nearly every aspect of our lives, and we often think of them as defining factors of success, happiness, and worth.

Clothing size
Instagram likes
Social media followers
Bra size
Salary
Weight
How many people you’ve slept with
Age
GPA

Society – one that is edited, filtered, and oftentimes seen through a lens – uses the above numbers in an attempt to indicate our worth or to paint a surreal picture of “perfection” we feel obligated to strive for. How many times have you joked with your friends about deleting an Instagram photo if it didn’t receive enough likes? Or maybe you’ve let your salary, weight, or age – all very different things, mind you – define you . I know I have, probably more times than I can actually count.

Jayne is here to remind me that my self-worth, beauty, strength, and overall awesomeness is not defined by a number. More than a Number.

Feel Good Look Good Series – A New Take on Dressing for Success – Collaboration with East Coast Gypsy and Recovery Love and Care!

Life is all about change, transition, and growth, and without discomfort we cannot truly grow as human beings. Therefore in a world filled with many moments of discomfort it is best to avoid it when unnecessary! For instance, feeling uncomfortable in your clothes is something that no one should endure, in that it can truly lower your self esteem, and drive for the rest of the day. We follow so many rules, regulations, challenges, and standards within our day-to-day lives, therefore why not think outside the box when it comes to what you wear? Why not give yourself a little bit of self-love, and self-care within your wardrobe?

I know that throughout my entire life, I have felt the need to dress a certain way, and look a certain way in order to “fit in”, in order to gain acceptance from others. Simple things like wearing skinny jeans, high heels, or crop tops, but in reality I HATE wearing skinny jeans, in that I physically do not feel comfortable in them. It is not a matter of self-loathing, it is a matter of me just not feeling comfortable, and with that discomfort comes lack of self love and self care for my mind and body! Why hold myself to these, literally, uncomfortable and, most often, unattainable standards?

My good friend Tara Murray, has a growing fashion blog, East Coast Gypsy that is all about finding your own fashion, and thinking out side of the box. I slowly learned that I do not need to torture myself, and neglect love and care for my body through fashion. Instead I can find things that work for me, for my lifestyle and body type! Tara believes that fashion means something different to everyone.

“There are all types of styles and trends that resonate specifically to a certain person and make them feel their best mentally and physically. I truly believe that the way you dress affects the way you feel and vice versa. Everyone gravitates towards a specific fit or type of clothing that they feel the most confident and comfortable in. I believe that this truly plays a role in your every day lifestyle and routine. For me personally, some of the items that I see as an essential in my closet when I want to look and feel the best are maxi dresses, off the shoulder tops, kimonos, flowy dresses, ripped jeans, and lulu lemon pants. All of these groups are dependent upon my mood, but all make me feel the most secure and confident.” –East Coast Gypsy

Tara has taught me that I can dress myself for success, in that I can feel good, look good, and maintain my own self-worth, self-care, and self-love through fashion! For instance, with a curvier and bustier body,  I look and feel my best wearing high waisted pants and shorts, shift dresses, rompers, low cut, slouched dresses with pockets, and slouchy cropped sweaters!

All women are beautiful and all bodies are beautiful, and no matter your struggles and challenges in life, you are deserving of looking good AND feeling good, so practice self-love through dressing for success!

Feel Good Look Good Series AND The Tiny Tassel Give Away!

 

***A winner has been chosen!***

I am starting a series that is near and dear to my heart! This series is about FEELING your best while embracing your outward appearance! This is something that we can all benefit from, especially for those within their Eating Disorder Recovery, or for those working through body positivity, low self-esteem, and/or self-care!

Recovery Love and Care is all about living for life love and self-care, and in order to do that successfully, a multidimensional approach is crucial! For instance, your health, your mind, your feelings and emotions, your family, your energy, your spirituality, your soul, your body, your inner self, and your outer self are ALL important within the practice of self-love and self-care! Everything that makes you, YOU, is important…and that is self-care and self-love at its finest! So when I talk about feeling good and looking good, I mean this in the absence of shame, and only in the presence of self-care and self-love, in that we all deserve to feel good and look good, whatever that means to you!

With that being said, I am kicking this week off with a treat! Seeing that National Eating Disorder Awareness Week just came to an end, I feel that the awareness and support should not stop there, therefore, The Tiny Tassel and Recovery Love and Care are coming together to spread the self-love in a giveaway!

The Tiny-Tassel is an amazing business, jewelry line, accessory line, and fashion line that my good friend Mimi Striplin started in Charleston, SC. Mimi and The Tiny Tassel are truly inspiring as a business, and as a brand! The Tiny Tassel is all about loving yourself for who you are, and celebrating it through fashion, bright colors, and tassel happiness! One think I love about The Tiny Tassel, is that the tassel’s and garments are a bright, fun and fashionable accessory to your personal beauty! Mimi uses REAL women within her modeling and photography, which is just one more reason why I adore the brand!

The Tiny Tassel and Recovery Love and Care are giving away two items that represent Eating Disorder Awareness and Eating Disorder Recovery, in that they have the light purple colors that correspond with the light purple ribbon for Eating Disorder Awareness. We hope to spread some awareness on Eating Disorders and the beauty that comes with Recovery, as well as, help someone feel and look their best! Check out down for the items in the give away and details on how to enter!

***A winner has been chosen!***

Let’s spread the self-love and awareness everyone!

Body Image Conception With Guest Author Jesaira Glover!

Happy Wednesday! Get excited because we have a “Guest Author” today! Therefore we are shifting our focus from just Eating Disorders to the oh so consuming and relevant topic of BODY IMAGE….as ALL of us experience struggles with how we perceive ourselves.

Today’s post is a continuation of the #EatingDisordersItsNotJustAWhiteGirlThing, this series is all about tearing down those oh so common misconceptions about Eating Disorders, and Eating Disorder Recovery, and in this case body image conception. This weeks “guest author” needs no introduction in that she is such an inspiration, has a way with both the written and verbal word, and is such an amazing presence within The Online Clinical Mental Health Counseling department at The Chicago School of Professional Psychology. Jesaira Glover, is a fellow peer, fellow graduate assistant, and fellow female that I consider a friend and inspiration….Jesaira’s story is unique, honest, and beautiful! I hope you enjoy her story!…..

For many years, I struggled with body image. I grew up in urban Detroit and although, my mama made us eat veggies with every meal, yet I still seem to be this chubby little girl. I vividly recall childhood memories of fellow students teasing me and calling me Jesaira Blubber. J You see…my name is Jesaira Glover, what cruelty to make fun of a person’s name and we were just kids! This indelible impression would shape and frame unhealthy thoughts about my body image for years to come.

Image involves the mental perception or value of self. Accepting who and what we are is a common challenge as our image is often skewed by external forces which seep into our internal being. Rejection walks alongside as an enemy to many individuals, especially women. The inner struggle and ongoing conflict brews deeply within the crevices of our souls. Even more interesting, discussion about negative body image and food bingeing is taboo within the Black Community. I was inadvertently taught through familial encounters, television, music, and other avenues that excessive amounts of food and big curves was the norm for black women. At the same time, curvy black women were presented in a negative fashion in comparison to other ethnicities.   Such dichotomy opposes positive self-image and keeps women aiming to meet societal standards and expectations. It is not humanely possible to live this way – embracing this mentality creates tension in our relationships, sabotages our success, and manipulates our future. It is UNREALISTIC to think that everyone will accept you…this is why personal change starts from within – accepting the authentic you NO MATTER WHAT!

No one is perfect and perfection is a subjective term. Likewise, beauty is relative. Yet, I am firm believer that everything and everyone is beautiful in their own way! True beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Unfortunately, the wrong things have shaped many of our self-images. For many years, I beheld something unattractive, fat, undesirable, and unintelligent. Where did such foolishness come from? According to a study conducted at the University of Southern California, binge eating is the most common eating disorder affecting black women and this is largely due to the hidden pressure to be thin like our white counterparts (Sciavocampo & Pou, 2014). From a genetic and biological perspective, our body types are typically different. Our bone structure is different and these factors play a major role in how our bodies are shaped and formed. However, our body shapes should not reflect a negative body image. As women, we are more than our bodies – we are an embodiment of gifts, talents, abilities, and beautiful personalities. We have the ability to overcome challenges, we are resilient and strong. How we perceive ourselves is connected to how we value what and who we are. We are invaluable beings – as a matter of fact, you and I are so unique there is no one else on this planet with our fingerprints. This fact alone is worthy of a huge celebration!! NO ONE can beat you about being you!! NO ONE! I want to encourage you to measure yourself by a different standard…a standard that speaks to who you – this is what I had to learn to do.

As I previously stated, weight management has always been a challenge for me as I come from a lineage of heavy/curvy women. In 1997, I weighed 265 pounds and lost over 100 pounds. I decided to change the trajectory of my health because I was miserable – I was dealing with high blood pressure and I was a mean person. I hid behind food bingeing and I ate to fulfill a void. I was not dating at the time and I did not have many friends. Food was my best friend – I could rely on it whenever I needed too and it kept my secrets. I learned to trust food. However, I was paying a hefty cost for overconsumption – I was killing myself. I recall looking at myself in the mirror one day and sensing that I could do better! Yet, the road to recovery and newness was connected to accepting me AS I WAS IN THAT VERY MOMENT – fat and all! I would like to submit to you: real change only comes as a result of loving and accepting who you presently are. The journey to recovery from food bingeing and other eating disorders is an ongoing – I had to acknowledge I was addicted to food. My addiction was based out of fear and my personal need for approval. Therefore, I made every effort to change my relationship with food – this still holds true today. I also decided to pursue being the BEST ME – free of societal expectations, bondage, and pressure. I will never have a supermodel’s body (and that’s okay) and will never be on the cover of Sports Illustrated; however, I am phenomenon in my own right and SO, ARE YOU!!

Here are a few lessons I learned along the way (perhaps, you too will find them beneficial)

  1. Accept and embrace you for who you are unconditionally
  2. Never compare yourself to others – it’s an unrealistic comparison as everyone is different
  3. Speak positive words/affirmations over your life on a daily basis
  4. Remove negative influences and voices from your space
  5. Never take yourself too serious
  6. HAVE FUN!!! RELAX, enjoy learning how to live YOUR best life

Embrace and love you right where you are…this is the beginning of real living! Your inner mystery is real beauty personified which resonates a unique sound, a melody produced and originated by YOU…and only YOU!

Committed to being the best me,

Jesaira L. Glover

Not a Supermodel BUT I’m Me…

Written by: Jesaira L. Glover

Phenomenal Woman by Maya Angelou

 Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.

I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size

But when I start to tell them,

They think I’m telling lies.

I say,

It’s in the reach of my arms,

The span of my hips,

The stride of my step,

The curl of my lips.

I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

I walk into a room

Just as cool as you please,

And to a man,

The fellows stand or

Fall down on their knees.

Then they swarm around me,

A hive of honey bees.

I say,

It’s the fire in my eyes,

And the flash of my teeth,

The swing in my waist,

And the joy in my feet.

I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

 

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

 Men themselves have wondered

What they see in me.

They try so much

But they can’t touch

My inner mystery.

When I try to show them,

They say they still can’t see.

I say,

It’s in the arch of my back,

The sun of my smile,

The ride of my breasts,

The grace of my style.

I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

 Now you understand

Just why my head’s not bowed.

I don’t shout or jump about

Or have to talk real loud.

When you see me passing,

It ought to make you proud.

I say,

It’s in the click of my heels,

The bend of my hair,

the palm of my hand,

The need for my care.

’Cause I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

 

References

Sciavocampo, M., Pou, J. (30, July, 2014). When being curvy hurts: One black woman severe struggle with body image. ABCNEWS. Retrieved from http://abcnews.go.com/Health/curvy-hurts-black-womans-severe-struggle-body-image/story?id=24777077